Comparing my entry called "Evolution" from 9/4/08 and then the one from now, "Lost: Hope"...all I can say is "Dang."
Too many cruelty cases in the last couple months, I'd say.
Perhaps I will get my mojo back. I forgot how the hopeful feels. I did get my favorite longterm iso kitten out into a fabulous home today...little Silka. That's something good. Two black brother kitties are going home together (!) tomorrow. And we will go check the trap in the empty triple decker apartment and get that poor, abandoned cat in the morning. I did some good stuff this week, skull hacking aside. Tomorrow is sure to be a snow day, Christmas is next week...I'll have five days off in a row and holy jeebus do I love my little three-legged dog...who incidentally wants to go to bed, I can tell.
I'll be ok.
Thursday, December 18, 2008
Lost: Hope
Been meaning to keep this thing updated.
I guess it was a phase, the need I had to document, to tell stories. Of late it seems futile....so much wind-pissery.
Perhaps I am straddling Doug Fakemma's Phase Two and Phase Three..., one leg on each as skis, being pulled along by the whiny-engined speedboat of Reality...should I do some wake jumps?
I wish there was a way I could saw open my skull, just like that of the poor little Pom we necropsied yesterday who'd been blunt-traumatized to death by some girl's douchebag boyfriend. He'll no doubt plead out of the charges. Some Facebook espionage has indicated that he and the dog's owner are still hot'n'heavy and he's placating her with some new pug puppies. Meanwhile I am lying awake at night having repetitive visions of holding a small, half-frozen lifeless body similar to that of my own dog, while my boss used the handsaw on the skull. Saw open my own skull, is what I would like to do...to release the last three years' worth of scenes...of situations, of first-hand stories. Release the hundreds of souls whose names and faces I have forgotten...and that's the worst part of it of all. Crack it open and let it all run out...the shadow of hipbones, the cries of an agonal kitten, that hellish sound of ignorance and obliviousness..."Awwwwww!!" Like escaping steam to disappear. Purged, empty, innocent again.
Today I walked around a cavernous, empty, foreclosed tripledecker in the city looking for an elusive cat who had been left behind without food and water for a week or two. She wouldn't come out of hiding, somewhere in the walls or in the dark basement. The emptiness of the place and the disappointment of not finding the cat echoed within me.
This is getting so bad. I wish I had the hope still. But the excuses and the "getting rid of" and the movingallergiesbaby go on and on...the URI never ends...the staff infighting continues...the needle pokes and the plunger pushes and the eyes dilate with a final sigh and what the hell am I complaining about, usually doing just a couple undeniably justified, old/sick euthanasias a day when some people elsewhere have to do dozens? And the Pits sit back there day after day and all the dogs look hopefully at the visitors who only want puppies and the thought of all the undiscovered hoardings going on in the state, the country, the world...all the douchebag boyfriends or vicious little boys who will continue to hurt or kill and get away with it....try not to think of where everyone who we are too full to take in are going...
WHAT am I doing?
And I wish sometimes I'd never answered that ad those years ago...that I could've kept in my little private practice bubble where people take care of their pets and there's not much to agonize over after you leave to go home at night. Where you get to make efforts and put in IV catheters and do dentals and dispense expensive new pain drugs and go all out on treatment plans and good diets and supplements and hell, why not accupuncture, too? This time of year, private practices are overflowing with thankful fruitbaskets and chocolate samplers and baked goods. At the shelter, we get some cards and maybe a couple treats. Our "clientele" mainly just uses us as a dumping place for their discarded pets, whatever free or discounted servoces they can get and also sees us as jail wardens, big meanies who keep cats in cages and dogs in runs...we're a place to grab some (like, 10) free Iams samples on the way out while bitching about what jerks we are for not picking them out of the stack of 30 applicants for the young Golden back there. I wish I'd have stayed in my world sometimes. I was still helping. I was still doing good. And I actually thought the world was a nice place. I wish I'd never had to see so much evidence to the contrary.
That I'd never had to see so much misery and stupidity and pathos....
Or even see the repetitive endless smaller disappointments like seemingly good adopters standing a dog up....of your own friend returning a dog...of a kitten going home with someone you got a funny vibe from- but beggars can't be choosers when they are coming out your ears. Of 18 hamsters being turned in by a guy who adopted 2 a couple months back and swore he was going to keep them seperate.
Oh yes, "bright side" and friggin' starfish and our adoption rate is really high, yes, and I should focus on the good things of which there are plenty...
But the images stay in my mind....and my innocence is lost and I do not know how I went from a wittle puppeeee and kitteeee wuvving wittle girl like everyone else to a deadpan 30-something year old woman in scrubs, with a tranq dart pistol aimed at a snarling dog behind chain link.
In a flash, it seems. WHAM.
Go watch some Animal Planet. It's more cheerful and the soundtrack is better.
I envy those that can keep their fire going. I envy those who can brainstorm and think of solutions...which is vastly easier when you are not in the trenches 40+, shaving a frozen disemboweled half-cat for official photos, euthanizing a perfectly healthy and friendly tabby with a tiny bite wound soley on a rabies law technicality, sitting on a Strategic Planning Committee that you know (due to the politics of a board made up of wealthy people who have NO idea what goes on every day here and you know see most of us employees as "The Help") will likely not get very far at all...when you are gagging behind a respirator mask in a hoarder house, finding ancient cat mummies stuck to a basement floor among the dog shit...
How much more do I have to give? I give my hope, my patience, my heart...of which there ain't much left most days. It's all I can do to get through the day, let alone come up with solutions to big picture problems, to come up with even simple ideas that are so often met with crossed-armed, naysaying coworkers.
This is so hard. The starfish fable isn't cutting it for me right now.
How do you know when to keep fighting and when to know that you've made your contribution and given all you can for the time being?
And if you decide the latter, how do you step back and avoid the 6 ton anvil of Guilt that you know will be falling right on your head? All the imaginary faces like big sad-eyed velvet paintings that I know I will be abandoning if I go.
What if the thing you are good at, the thing that people tell you is your "gift" is the thing that destroys you? Why couldn't my gift be auctioneering or judo or caricature-drawing or beekeeping or freediving and NOT euthanasia grief counseling and fractious animal handling? Huh? Why?
Next year I plan to move into a more focused area of animal welfare...spay/neuter. Will I be able to live with myself or will I feel like a traitor?
"I could never do what you do...I love animals too much."
Screw you. Don't even frigging talk to me.
Apologies. More cheer to come...I think this may just be my semiannual purge.
I guess it was a phase, the need I had to document, to tell stories. Of late it seems futile....so much wind-pissery.
Perhaps I am straddling Doug Fakemma's Phase Two and Phase Three..., one leg on each as skis, being pulled along by the whiny-engined speedboat of Reality...should I do some wake jumps?
I wish there was a way I could saw open my skull, just like that of the poor little Pom we necropsied yesterday who'd been blunt-traumatized to death by some girl's douchebag boyfriend. He'll no doubt plead out of the charges. Some Facebook espionage has indicated that he and the dog's owner are still hot'n'heavy and he's placating her with some new pug puppies. Meanwhile I am lying awake at night having repetitive visions of holding a small, half-frozen lifeless body similar to that of my own dog, while my boss used the handsaw on the skull. Saw open my own skull, is what I would like to do...to release the last three years' worth of scenes...of situations, of first-hand stories. Release the hundreds of souls whose names and faces I have forgotten...and that's the worst part of it of all. Crack it open and let it all run out...the shadow of hipbones, the cries of an agonal kitten, that hellish sound of ignorance and obliviousness..."Awwwwww!!" Like escaping steam to disappear. Purged, empty, innocent again.
Today I walked around a cavernous, empty, foreclosed tripledecker in the city looking for an elusive cat who had been left behind without food and water for a week or two. She wouldn't come out of hiding, somewhere in the walls or in the dark basement. The emptiness of the place and the disappointment of not finding the cat echoed within me.
This is getting so bad. I wish I had the hope still. But the excuses and the "getting rid of" and the movingallergiesbaby go on and on...the URI never ends...the staff infighting continues...the needle pokes and the plunger pushes and the eyes dilate with a final sigh and what the hell am I complaining about, usually doing just a couple undeniably justified, old/sick euthanasias a day when some people elsewhere have to do dozens? And the Pits sit back there day after day and all the dogs look hopefully at the visitors who only want puppies and the thought of all the undiscovered hoardings going on in the state, the country, the world...all the douchebag boyfriends or vicious little boys who will continue to hurt or kill and get away with it....try not to think of where everyone who we are too full to take in are going...
WHAT am I doing?
And I wish sometimes I'd never answered that ad those years ago...that I could've kept in my little private practice bubble where people take care of their pets and there's not much to agonize over after you leave to go home at night. Where you get to make efforts and put in IV catheters and do dentals and dispense expensive new pain drugs and go all out on treatment plans and good diets and supplements and hell, why not accupuncture, too? This time of year, private practices are overflowing with thankful fruitbaskets and chocolate samplers and baked goods. At the shelter, we get some cards and maybe a couple treats. Our "clientele" mainly just uses us as a dumping place for their discarded pets, whatever free or discounted servoces they can get and also sees us as jail wardens, big meanies who keep cats in cages and dogs in runs...we're a place to grab some (like, 10) free Iams samples on the way out while bitching about what jerks we are for not picking them out of the stack of 30 applicants for the young Golden back there. I wish I'd have stayed in my world sometimes. I was still helping. I was still doing good. And I actually thought the world was a nice place. I wish I'd never had to see so much evidence to the contrary.
That I'd never had to see so much misery and stupidity and pathos....
Or even see the repetitive endless smaller disappointments like seemingly good adopters standing a dog up....of your own friend returning a dog...of a kitten going home with someone you got a funny vibe from- but beggars can't be choosers when they are coming out your ears. Of 18 hamsters being turned in by a guy who adopted 2 a couple months back and swore he was going to keep them seperate.
Oh yes, "bright side" and friggin' starfish and our adoption rate is really high, yes, and I should focus on the good things of which there are plenty...
But the images stay in my mind....and my innocence is lost and I do not know how I went from a wittle puppeeee and kitteeee wuvving wittle girl like everyone else to a deadpan 30-something year old woman in scrubs, with a tranq dart pistol aimed at a snarling dog behind chain link.
In a flash, it seems. WHAM.
Go watch some Animal Planet. It's more cheerful and the soundtrack is better.
I envy those that can keep their fire going. I envy those who can brainstorm and think of solutions...which is vastly easier when you are not in the trenches 40+, shaving a frozen disemboweled half-cat for official photos, euthanizing a perfectly healthy and friendly tabby with a tiny bite wound soley on a rabies law technicality, sitting on a Strategic Planning Committee that you know (due to the politics of a board made up of wealthy people who have NO idea what goes on every day here and you know see most of us employees as "The Help") will likely not get very far at all...when you are gagging behind a respirator mask in a hoarder house, finding ancient cat mummies stuck to a basement floor among the dog shit...
How much more do I have to give? I give my hope, my patience, my heart...of which there ain't much left most days. It's all I can do to get through the day, let alone come up with solutions to big picture problems, to come up with even simple ideas that are so often met with crossed-armed, naysaying coworkers.
This is so hard. The starfish fable isn't cutting it for me right now.
How do you know when to keep fighting and when to know that you've made your contribution and given all you can for the time being?
And if you decide the latter, how do you step back and avoid the 6 ton anvil of Guilt that you know will be falling right on your head? All the imaginary faces like big sad-eyed velvet paintings that I know I will be abandoning if I go.
What if the thing you are good at, the thing that people tell you is your "gift" is the thing that destroys you? Why couldn't my gift be auctioneering or judo or caricature-drawing or beekeeping or freediving and NOT euthanasia grief counseling and fractious animal handling? Huh? Why?
Next year I plan to move into a more focused area of animal welfare...spay/neuter. Will I be able to live with myself or will I feel like a traitor?
"I could never do what you do...I love animals too much."
Screw you. Don't even frigging talk to me.
Apologies. More cheer to come...I think this may just be my semiannual purge.
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